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Is this a Convention?
No. It’s not a convention. NVC events are usually quite creative and interactive. Over the past several years, we’ve had annual NVC Conventions in India, with marketplace-style offerings (short workshop sessions).
This time we want to offer more structured learning (although fun, creative and interactive at the same time), and an opportunity to really deepen our NVC journey together.
Dates: 17th – 21st January 2016
Check-in check-out time: Check in after 17th January 5pm. Check out on 21st January before 2pm
Venue: Ecumenical Christian Centre, Whitefield, Bangalore (map), Phone number +918028452270
Fees: Rs. 20,000. Includes tuition fee, accommodation, all meals from 5pm on 17th Jan to 2pm on 21st Jan, handouts and materials, and 15% service tax. (We will accept payment in Indian Rupees only, and click the links for an equivalent sum in USD, EUR and AUD and GBP)
Topics: Foundation training in NVC, Living NVC with Somatics and Body Awareness, Education for life with NVC, Restorative Circles
Registration link: This form. Here. And if you have already made the payment, click below to mail us the screenshot of your transfer.
Alternatively, you could even mail us the account name from which you transferred money, the bank name and the transaction ID.
For foreign nationals: Please upload a scanned copy of your passport and visa to http://goo.gl/FaLrCz
What is Nonviolent Communication (NVC)?
We all grew up in environments in which the focus often lies on what is “right/wrong”, “appropriate/ inappropriate” or “deserved/undeserved” etc. This habitualised way of thinking and communicating tends to drive us apart in arguments, it drains our energy in any interactions with others and sometimes even leads to permanent disruptions.
Nonviolent Communication (NVC) offers a concrete set of tools which enables Read more
us in any situation to navigate conversations towards what is possible, what is empowering for everyone, and what makes life more enjoyable. And to keep this focus, even though it might require practice and particular determination at times.
NVC works like a compass that sets us on track to create fundamental shifts in any given situation.
- Responds to the flow of life, its point of reference is always the NOW
- Creates clarity about our own emotions, our needs and those of others
- Supports us in never giving in or up on our own needs while hearing others’ needs
- Helps us to be fully honest with ourselves and to communicate from that honesty without any blame
- Gives us power to hear others with openness even if their messages are tough
- Is not only interested in conflict resolution, but equally interested in the celebration of life
- Simply has much more to offer than we see ourselves being able to communicate here on one page.
How will I benefit from NVC?
Across the world, NVC has been used in business to:
● Improve teamwork, efficiency and morale
● Resolve workplace conflicts quickly and effectively
● Make meetings more effective
● Enhance adaptability, flexibility, and responsiveness
● Hear and address customer needs more effectively
● Offer employee evaluations that promote growth
● Maximize the individual potential of all students
● Strengthen students’ interest, retention and connection to their work
● Improve safety and trust in your classroom
● Improve classroom cooperation
● Deepen your emotional connections
● Transform judgment/criticism into understanding/connection
● Listen so others are really heard
● Get what you want more often without using demands, guilt or shame
● Hear the needs behind whatever anyone does or says
● Hear the needs behind whatever anyone does or says
● Get what you want more often without using demands, guilt or shame
● Transform judgment/criticism into understanding/connection
● Listen so others are really heard
● Transform enemy images and moralistic judgments
● Overcome cultural conditioning that promotes violence
● Care for your own needs first to fuel compassion for others
● Connect to our common humanity
● Transform anger before it leads to behavior you’ll regret
● Discover the needs behind your anger
● Learn to appreciate what triggers you and others
● Identify solutions that are satisfying to everyone
● Express anger in ways that connect you to others
What you can expect at this event
We have four separate tracks in this event:
1. Foundation training in NVC
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About the track
- Introduces you to the steps of the Nonviolent Communication (NVC) process for use in expressing yourself to others, listening to others, and listening compassionately to yourself.
- Gives you sufficient information and practice to start using NVC in your daily life.
- Is run in an experiential style working with examples from participants’ lives.
- Uses ‘Embodied NVC’ – kinaesthetic movement to facilitate integrated learning with the whole body.
- Is a recognised stepping stone to further NVC training.
- Is a safe learning environment.
- Identify the four steps of the NVC process.
- Learn new and effective communication skills in a playful and supportive environment.
- Explore connecting with others in times of conflict and with those who have different worldviews.
- Discover how to shift from a paradigm of demands, rewards and consequences — to a paradigm of self-responsibility, connection, trust, mutual support and interdependence.
- Practise becoming more present and experience taking a ‘time in’
2. Living NVC with Somatics and Body Awareness
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Somatics and BodyNVC
Many people experience NVC as a useful and powerful way of life. Some students prefer a more direct learning track. Less words, more movement. BodyNVC offers just that.
The Wisdom of Your Body
Your body stores every life experience in its cells. As we gain access to this invaluable information, we are able to better understand ourselves and other people. The body turns out to be a miraculous key to connection and understanding.
All Our Senses
In this workshop, we focus on our intuitive wisdom. To connect with our needs, we employ all our senses. We are taking off on a journey of exploration, without effort. Experiment together, in a playful way.
The Promise of BodyNVC
To explore the messages of your body. To get support in practicing NVC. To take home a treasure of fine exercises. And to have a lot of fun in the process 😉
During these days, music, dance and movement are interlaced with meditation, visualization and creative expression. Individual experiences are integrated during regular small and large group sharing.
BodyNVC is somatic exploration, the integration of body as an essential place of change, learning and transformation. Awareness of habituated behaviors might lead to a glimpse of freedom.
3. Education for life with NVC
Read more about Education for life with NVC
Education for Life with NVC – in Kindergarten and school
Children learn more when they feel safe and have fun.
This workshop is for anyone involved in education or interested in the development of children. We offer an opportunity to develop your skills in communication and learn how to contribute to a safe, fun and creative learning environment.
The purpose of this workshop: To give teachers the skills needed in order to contribute to children growing up with other options than submission and rebellion: the skills to create dialog that leads to both parties needs being met.
We will work towards a balance between guiding students, and encouraging autonomy and inner motivation in student.
We sometimes give too little guidance to young ones, and thereby let them down.
We sometimes give too much guidance to young ones, and thereby get in the way of them developing autonomy and inner motivation.
During these three and a half days we will learn to:
- Get clearer on our own vision and dream for our work with students, so that we can develop practical steps we can take towards our dream.
- Enrich our work and cooperation in schools based on nonviolent values that honor basic human needs such as mutual respect, empathy, equality and inclusion in the daily life with children.
- Handle conflicts and mediate between children and being a model for them through your way of handling conflicts aswell as anger.Participants willhave the opportunity to work from own examples and learn how to contribute todevelopment based on dialogue and cooperation.
- Create a learning environment from an emphatic attitude, where inclusion is significant, where children workwillingly from inner motivation without punishments and rewards.
- Practise self-empathy, honesty and empathy in a balanced dialog, where the focus is on creating a quality of connection that enables both parties’ needs to be met.
- Stay in contact with the needs and values you as a teacher are taking care of when you say no to a student, and when you receive a no from a student.
- Express criticism and appreciation in ways that contribute to self-esteem and growth.
- Practise inclusion in all dialogs in order to educate children in democratic values, and prepare them for full participation in society.
Our dream is that our students will feel
- as enthusiasticabout learning when they leave school after 10 years of study, as they were on their very first day of school. Too many children seem to loose theirnatural joy of learning; because of the way we traditionally have organize our work in school.
- safe, accepted asthey are, and connected to the joy oflearning, and that they will learn from innermotivation and take responsibility fortheir own learning.
- free to contribute
4. Restorative Circles
Read more about Restorative Circles
Restorative Circles (RC) offer ways for individuals and communities to establish connection, discover meaning and recover power on profound levels. They create forums for reaching agreements that help sustain effective and nurturing relationships both personally and collectively.
This Circle process has developed within the Restorative Justice (RJ) movement, which in recent decades has rediscovered and adapted ways for communities to promote responsibility and healing. Rethinking justice, and engaging with the challenge of consciously building whole system responses to community well-being, has opened up revolutionary possibilities for furthering a culture of peace. More info about Restorative Circles: www.restorativecircles.org
Conflict is an inevitable part of the diversity of life. Yet few of us individually, let alone as a community, know how to respond to conflict with behaviors that do not produce pain and damage relationships.
The RC process offers a way to create community spaces for conflict that are safe and constructive, not destructive. It has been described as a straightforward problem-solving and nonviolent restoration method that demonstrates how community members can resolve their own conflicts when provided with a constructive forum to do so.
The establishment of a restorative system empowers communities to consciously choose how they would like to respond to conflict before it occurs – a form of proactive, preventative conflict transformation. It enables them to choose a nonviolent response to conflict that involves the whole community in discovering their own sustainable strategies by addressing immediate as well as underlying long term causes.
“… conflict is natural, normal, and recurrent in community life. When conflict occurs, it doesn’t mean anyone has failed. In fact, we need both community and conflict to reach our full potential as human beings. Much as we value individual choice, we are formed in community and work out the ramifications of our individuality in relation to others. And though we may resent it when our preferences, practices, or beliefs are challenged, we would never grow without conflict.” – Ron Kraybill & Evelyn Wright
“I don’t want to resolve conflict any more. I want conflict to happen. I don’t want to fight reality. Conflict as I understand it is part of living together. It’s part of our social coexistence. I don’t know if going up the mountain and going into a cave will get you away from conflict, but it’s not my choice of how to live. I’m interested in working out and understanding at a deeper level what actually happens when conflict occurs. And how can I effectively engage with it.” – Dominic Barter
How will my days look?
Kirsten is a family therapist, mediator and Certified Trainer with the Center for Nonviolent Communication, through which she has led Nonviolent Communication trainings in Europe, Asia and the United States. Her passion is to contribute to the personal development and healing that enables people to move closer to conflicts and to grow relational competencies. People who experience Kirsten’s training and facilitation often express enjoyment of how she models what she teaches with a drizzle of humor.For 22 years, Kirsten has devoted her working life to supporting others in personal development and between 1998 and 2006, she spent more than 100 days learning with Dr. Marshall Rosenberg, the creator of Nonviolent Communication (NVC).
In 2014, Kirsten was on the trainer team for Healing and Reconciliation with NVC in Nepal, which resulted in a documentary “Raamro Aakha Ma (In the Eyes of the Good).”
She leads several year-long NVC programs in Denmark and Germany and serves as a consultant and supervisor for institutions and organizations. She also publishes books on NVC in Danish and films about “Culture of Peace in Schools with NVC”.
L’aura Joy is a Certified Trainer in Nonviolent Communication (CNVC, USA). She has been sharing and living this practice for the past 9 years, and has traveled and shared in different countries and contexts, ranging from the corporate sector, to schools, to NGO’s working with women and street kids.
Having grown up in Auroville, an international intentional community in Tamil Nadu, L’aura is passionate about exploring how we can live our lives in empowered and co-creative ways. In addition to NVC, L’aura is also trained in Restorative Circles and Sociocracy, and she applies these approaches to her work with justice, conflict resolution and governance in Auroville.
L’aura has been a pioneer in bringing NVC to India and has hosted and organized several international events here. In addition, she offers her own training programs and has worked with leading transformation coaches and HR managers, exploring NVC as a means to transformation and sustainable change.
Sabine is a psychologist, and NVC trainer.
Her passion: to make NVC accessible to all.
Her focus: to use the deep wisdom of the body.
Sabine studied with Marshall Rosenberg, Miki & Inbal Kashtan and Robert Gonzales.
She has been leading groups in consciousness work and NVC for 25 years – both in Europe and the US.
Shantigarbha believes that compassionate connection can change the world!
“I want to connect with people, to create a safe learning environment, to have fun, to mourn and celebrate,” he says. He has been certified with CNVC for the past 12 years. During this time, he has shared NVC in Europe, the Middle East, Asia and the Far East with individuals, communities and companies. He is a CNVC Assessor-in-Training.
He has worked with caste issues in India and in Sri Lanka during the civil war. In 2012, he co-led a reconciliation retreat on the West Bank for Israelis and Palestinians. In 2015 he was a trainer at a Healing and Reconciliation event in post-conflict Nepal, which resulted in this documentary.
Shantigarbha has written a book on empathy, and is looking forward to seeing it published. He’s delighted to have another opportunity to be connect with the land and people of India.
Please register using the form below and we’ll send you an email with all the bank details. We will confirm your seat after you mail firstname.lastname@example.org a screenshot of your bank transfer of Rs. 20,000 to the following bank account:
|Account name||Paradigms Unlimited|
|Bank name||ICICI Bank, Deonar, Mumbai Branch|
|Account type||Current Account|
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Do you have questions about the payment?
I can’t pay right now. Can you block my seat?
We’re guessing you’d like to be sure that you’d have a seat? We have limited seats and we get applications almost every day. To make sure that as many people as possible can benefit from the event, and also that it’s sustainable for the organizers, your seat would be confirmed after you pay the full fee online.
Can I pay on arrival?
We’d love the participants to have that flexibility, and at the same time we have to make provisions for the upfront costs like deposit at the venue and the travel tickets of all the trainers that need to be covered before the event. So we’re choosing to request payment from the participants before we confirm their registration.
I don’t have an internet banking account. What do I do?
We understand that it’d be easier to pay in cash. Would you be willing to consider requesting a friend or a family member to make the online payment and pay them in cash? That would be easier for both of us. You could even deposit a cheque or cash in our bank account and send us an image of the acknowledgement receipt. We’d be happy to consider that as an option if that would be easy for you
Can I pay in installments?
Yes. We are willing to take a non-refundable deposit of Rs. 5,000 and book your seat. Please transfer the whole amount before December 25th so that we can confirm your seat.
- Up to 15th December 2016: Refund of entire contribution, minus Rs 1500 for administrative fee
- After 15th December 2016: Please find us a replacement and we’ll be willing to give you refund of entire contribution, minus Rs 1500 for administrative fee
Venue and travel
Our venue, the Ecumenical Christian Centre, supports programs that enable inclusive cultures and peace-building movements. The Centre is located in Whitefield, one of Bangalore’s business districts. The campus spans over nearly 30 acres, and has several green spaces as well as walking paths. The accommodation is basic yet well-maintained; all rooms have attached bathrooms and toilets. The Centre offers simple Indian menu with vegetarian and non-vegetarian options.
The weather in Bangalore in the month of January is expected to be pleasant, with temperatures ranging from 20 to 28 degrees Centigrade, with the possibility of rain. Please bring an umbrella and comfortable shoes.
Photos of the venue
You can see more pictures of the venue at http://share.pho.to/AQ41Q
By air: Nearest International Airport: Kempegowda International Airport, Bangalore, 52 km from venue.
By taxi: Our venue is roughly 1.5 hours from Bangalore’s airport in non-peak hour traffic.From the airport, you can take a licensed taxi to the venue (look out for “Airport Taxi” or “KSTDC Taxi.”). Take the Devanahalli-Hoskote Route to avoid traffic.
If you wish to pre-book a taxi, here are some helpful links:
Taxi for Sure: https://www.taxiforsure.com/bangalore-cabs/airport-service/
Meru Cabs: https://www.merucabs.com
Fixed rate cabs from Bangalore airport to anywhere in the city: Uber, Uber X and Uber Go
I’m a beginner in NVC. What can I expect?
Perfect! We’re offering a track that responds to your needs! The “Foundation training in NVC” track will carry you through the NVC process, from beginning to end.
I don’t work as a coach or a trainer. Will I still benefit from this event?
Yes! All of us can benefit from NVC, as its application is adaptable to just about any life situation, be it professional or personal or spiritual.
Can I switch tracks?
No. We are intending to provide an in-depth learning environment, so please choose your track carefully. If you need to switch tracks, please write to us before Dec 31st, 2016
Will I be NVC certified if I attend this training?
No. NVC Certification is an intense program that generally runs over 3-5 years. However, you can use these days towards your Certification, if you so wish. We’ll be happy to offer you more information during the event itself! For more on certification: click here
What languages will the session be in?
English. Sorry, we do not have the facilities right now to offer translations into different languages.
What if I can’t attend the whole event?
We are requesting full participation, meaning arriving by the evening of Jan 17 and leaving any time after lunch on Jan 21. Our intention is create a focused learning environment as well as a sense of community and togetherness.
Can I come early? Can I join late on the day 0?
We will only be able to receive you after 5pm on Jan 17. If you land in Bangalore earlier, please arrange for a leisurely ride to the venue, or stop and have a coffee somewhere! It’s also not ideal that you arrive any later than 7pm because we’ll be having dinner and our evening activity, and it will be harder to arrange for your room and key later in the evening.
Can we stay for a day later?
You’ll have to coordinate this directly with the venue staff upon your arrival, and then pay them separately for your additional charges. We will not coordinate this for you.
Is it ok if I stay off campus?
This is a residential program, and we are paying our rooms as per our number of participants. We request that all participants stay on campus, so that we can create the learning and community environment we’re hoping for.
Can I bring my children along?
We are not arranging for child-care at this event, and we hope to provide a space for focused learning, so it would be best if could arrange for other ways to care for your children at home, while you attend the event.
Do the rooms have Wi-Fi and hot water?
There are solar water heaters in each hostel, and electric water heaters in the common bathrooms.
Wi-Fi isn’t available in the rooms. There is an internet cafe on the campus, though it’s very likely that it’s open only during session hours. If you think you’ll need internet access during your stay, please arrange for a 3G/4G connection on your phone or bring an internet data card.